Are You Sabotaging Yourself With “Fat Talk”?

If you’re a woman, chances are good that at some point you’ve looked in a mirror and focused on your imperfections. But have you given much thought to just how your internal monologue: “I wish I had slimmer thighs”, “I wish my butt was smaller” or “I can’t believe how much I gained with myContinue reading “Are You Sabotaging Yourself With “Fat Talk”?”

Mirror, Mirror: Learning to love what I see

When you look in the mirror, what do you see? Professional dancer Tonya Hagey has stared at it often enough to know that the relationship between a woman and a mirror can be agitating.  After years of practice, she’s found grace in its graze, and strength in the reflection of her soul. A group ofContinue reading “Mirror, Mirror: Learning to love what I see”

Tips and Tools for Helping Yourself or a Friend

The teenage years can be tough, and it’s perfectly normal to feel sad or irritable every now and then. But if these feelings don’t go away or become so intense that you can’t handle them, you may be suffering from depression. The good news is that you don’t have to feel this way. Help isContinue reading “Tips and Tools for Helping Yourself or a Friend”

Picking Up the Pieces of Your Life

You know the feeling too well, you feel tired of everything, overwhelmed and helpless. You may be going through such trying times, you feel blinded. The feeling you have is almost like falling into a deep, dark bottomless pit or a deep slippery hole with no grip to support or help you up. You thinkContinue reading “Picking Up the Pieces of Your Life”

My Spouse is Cheating on Me Again! What Can I Do?

If You Are Being Cheated On: Get real. The best predictor of future behavior is relevant past behavior. What do you predict? If your partner has cheated on you repeatedly and now swears he/she will stop, what are the chances that this is true? You can’t change what you don’t acknowledge. Isn’t there a pointContinue reading “My Spouse is Cheating on Me Again! What Can I Do?”

I Keep Cheating on My Spouse

If you have repeatedly cheated, or are the partner of a cheater and can’t seem to forgive or break off the unhealthy relationship, Dr. Phil has advice. Look at the statistics. The chance of a successful relationship born of infidelity is not even one in 100. A marriage that starts in infidelity has no foundation.Continue reading “I Keep Cheating on My Spouse”

Two Traps to Avoid: “If Only” and “What If?”

In each season of my life, I’ve found myself falling into two mental traps which are not helpful. One is the “If only” syndrome, and the other is the “What if?” syndrome. Here’s how “If only” might express itself: “If only I had a husband.” “If only I had more money.” “If only my husbandContinue reading “Two Traps to Avoid: “If Only” and “What If?””

Don’t Give Away Your Power

Karen and Steve stood in the hallway, complaining about their manager’s latest top-down decision. “He’s unfair.” “Micromanaging.” “Never listens to us.” Gina met me for lunch, complaining about her relationship—the same things she’s been complaining about for years: “He never does anything around the house.” “Never listens.” “Doesn’t care about me.” Then it hit me.Continue reading “Don’t Give Away Your Power”

Why Words Can Hurt at Least as Much as Sticks and Stones

Just as the digital age has ushered in new ways of enhancing human connection, it’s also opened up the scope and range of social rejection. Unfriend—as in, un-Facebook friend—was the word of the year in 2009, joining its older cohort “cyberbully,” amid the advent of the text breakup or the Facebook status change as waysContinue reading “Why Words Can Hurt at Least as Much as Sticks and Stones”

Which Gets More TLC: Your Car or Your Body?

When it comes to your daily to-do list, don’t let your ride take priority over your health. The mass production of the Ford Model T sparked a new love affair – one between people and their cars. We carve out time to wash them, cringe at the sight of a dent or scratch, and evenContinue reading “Which Gets More TLC: Your Car or Your Body?”